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More Than “Just” a Housewife

I’m Proud to Be a Housewife and You Should Be Too!
in the kitchen with one happy housewife
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I’m barely writing my first blog post and my 15 yr. old is already using my blog against me. He came downstairs with a tray full of dishes from his room and placed them next to the kitchen sink.

He warned me that there were some stinkers in there that he had forgotten to bring down last week. I told him to go ahead and clean them himself. He paused, put his hand on my shoulder and said “No mama, you should clean it, you love this stuff, it’s what you do. You’re a housewife remember? One Happy Housewife!”

Well played Jr., well played!

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Being a housewife and stay-at-home mom is not easy. I still never understand when people ask me what I do or where I work, and then respond with a “That must be nice.” when I tell them.

Now, don’t get me wrong, it is nice to be blessed enough to be able to stay with my kids while they’re growing up. I personally love organizing, cleaning and planning, so yes, it’s nice to do what I love everyday.

The thing is, I know what “That must be nice” really means.

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It means they think I’m “just” a housewife and all I do is probably sit at home on the couch Facebooking and watching Netflix. It means they think we’re rolling in dough, so I get to stay at home all day and do nothing. I’ve literally had friends call me in the middle of a hectic day to ask me to do something for them because “I have so much free time”.

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It means they think I’m probably not smart enough to go out and get a “real” job. I’ve actually had the cable guy, stop mid-sentence while he was explaining what he was going to do, and say “You wouldn’t understand.” because a few minutes earlier he had asked what I did for a living.

It means they assume that the work I do on a daily basis is “simple” and requires no smarts. Try balancing a checkbook with a screaming child at your feet while helping an angry teenager with algebra!

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It means they think I spend my days at a fancy coffee shop sipping cappuccinos and gossiping with my other housewife friends. It means they think I shop at Target every day. OK, maybe I do shop at Target every day, but that’s nobody’s business!!

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Well, all these stereotypes associated with being a housewife and stay-at-home mom, couldn’t be farther from the truth.

We’re not “just” housewives. We’re so many things rolled into one. We’re wives, moms, teachers, nurses, chauffeurs, chefs, accountants, cheerleaders, pet-sitters, event planners, organizers, therapists, mediators, cleaning ladies and personal shoppers. We run a full-service laundry facility and kitchen while also serving as the family alarm clock and calendar. I could go on and on. All this without getting paid.

Housewife Work
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Some days, I don’t have time to shower, I don’t have time to eat breakfast, and I don’t have time to sit and breathe just for a minute. When I’m sick, I don’t take the day off. It’s business as usual. Oh, and as far as friends, I definitely don’t get to hang out with them as often as I’d like. And just like with any job, sometimes I get frustrated, and sometimes I feel like I just can’t do it anymore, and it’s too much for just one person, and sometimes I want to run out of the house screaming! On days like that though, I remember why I do this, and I remember that there are 6 other people that I love dearly who need me to be there for them.

I take pride in my job and I try to do it well. Just like I would any other job. I find joy in trying to make things easier and figuring out ways to streamline everything and reduce the stress from going, going, going all day. I find joy in knowing that when things are organized, the house is clean, and everyone has what they need, I’m doing a good job.

Organized Closet
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Now, if you’re a mom who has to work outside the house because of financial need, that’s OK. You’re doing the best you can. If you’re a mom who works because she doesn’t like to be at home doing housework during the day, that’s OK too. And if you’re a mom who works from home, then more power to ya! It’s about being happy, and being proud of what we do. We’re all in this together and we should support each other.

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It took me a while to learn to put the comments aside. It also took me a while to learn not to have my motivation be about being appreciated. It’s nice when my family tells me they appreciate what I do but my happiness comes from doing the best that I can. It comes from knowing that I’m doing what I love every day, even though it can get overwhelming at times. It may not be a paying job, but being a housewife and a stay-at-home mom is an important job, it’s a tough job, it’s a 24/7 job, and it’s a job that I am proud of!

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  • Patti says:

    Awesome job Valerie. Very proud of you for making the blog dream come true.
    Hugs, Patti

  • Teresa Tilden says:

    ❤️❤️❤️ love this post !! I’m a happy housewife too!!(most days)

  • Lindsey says:

    Very nice and such a true story

  • Beth Landgraf says:

    Love this post and heart you lady! Can’t wait to read more!

  • Robin Gaylord says:

    So well written Valerie! Beautiful pictures as well!

  • Ramona Bishop says:

    Love your blog Val ! Always admired your home and your skills. Looking forward to your emails. I think you are a great planner, organizer and a beautiful Mom, wife and friend. Glad we get to be part of your lives sometimes. Think you are a great cook as well. Love you, Ryan & the family. Love, Mona

  • Lucia says:

    Valerie, de casualidad por un like de alguien en Facebook me apareció tu página y es el día de tu primer post, te felicito, me encantó! Un abrazo desde tus tierras catrachas, Lucía Durón

  • Milly says:

    Loved reading your blog, I can sure relate! I am a housewife as well, and it is a very hard job and very much unappreciated. I am always tired! Good luck with your blog, I will keep reading!

  • Liana Caceres de Alvarez says:

    Muchos éxitos Valeria !! Me encanto tu post y me sentí muy identificada porque igual soy una feliz ama de casa . Muchas bendiciones en tu nuevo proyecto .

  • Maria Fernandez says:

    First of all I LOVE YOU !!
    I’ll send you my comments in private… Hahaha… No seriously!

  • Denis Amador says:

    ¡¡¡FELICIDADES¡¡¡ Valery ,saludes desde aca de Catrachilandia (Honduras) muy interesante su Blog ,una sugerencia debería tener una opción para el habla en español .
    Saludes

  • Natalie says:

    So true! I always feel like I can totally relate to the stay at home mom AND the working mom!! I work from 8-8:30 as a Nurse at our local hospital three days a week and I am a stay at home mom the other four.l days a week. Most days I feel like I have to go to work to get some rest LOL! Moms work so hard…great blog 🙂

  • Marcelle says:

    This was a great article….so true!!! Love the pictures!!

  • Helen Cooper says:

    Me encanto el articulo Valerie, sigue adelante!!

  • Ondina & John Ayres says:

    Great start to what might turn into an activity that takes all of your time away from doing what really you love…being “just” a housewife. We especially enjoy the great pictures. My mother was “just” a housewife until all of her children were either married or had finished college and then went back to work as a teacher, a profession that she loved. My father then started complaining because her salary was enough to bump them up into a higher tax bracket. Your accomplishments never cease to amaze Ondina and me. We very much enjoyed reading your initial posts in this blog and look forward to reading many more of your thoughts, opinions, and suggestions.

  • Stacy Friedman says:

    Wow! Way to go Valerie!! So funny how we “housewives” (hey-it’s Monday, so I’m going to leave out the happy part for the moment!).. But we can all lead such different lives, yet all share pretty much the same feelings about our work (and, work, it is!!). And, I LOVE those pics!!!! Congratulations!!

  • Brenda Anderson says:

    I cannot believe how spot on you were. I ran a daycare for 15 years for teachers in our neighbor school. Also serving as a vice president/president at that same school. Since I also worked from home, I experienced the same treatment. Thank you for being so honest.

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